How to Stop ‘Motherzilla’ From Destroying Your Wedding

July 22, 2019

Bridezilla has met her match!

Wedding prep can bring out the best and worst in people and not just for the bride and groom.

The mothers (and fathers) of the engaged couple can also have heightened emotions at this time, become very controlling and overreact to the most innocuous details surrounding the big day. Introducing Motherzilla!

Parents are expected to be full of joy for their child’s wedding, but because of all the anxiety it’s often the last thing they feel.

“Even if everything is fine, there are still bound to be other feelings mixed in with excitement: anxiety about losing your child, anxieties about getting it wrong, feelings of competition and jealousy, often with the other family,” relationship expert Annette Byford told the Daily Mail.

Byford said many parents fear “if I get this wrong, I might actually lose my child and it is the other family whose claim to the new couple will become stronger.”

So to help ease tensions Byford advises parents to not expect everything to be perfect and to be ok with having mixed feelings about this big life change. She also reassures her clients that arguments are common in the lead up to a wedding and that there’s nothing wrong with your family as it all comes with the territory.

In addition, it’s very important to not keep everything bottled up and communicate with one another. Finally, and this may be the hardest part for many, try to have a sense of humor about it all.

The bride and groom can also do their part by trying to include their parents in the planning stages and reassure them that their relationship is not threatened or changing.

But if the Motherzilla in your life is still trying to run the show, Byford suggests brides simply change the way they see their parent’s behavior.

“Think of it as a question of anxiety rather than a question of control and that may put a different light on some of the tension that can arise around weddings,” Byford said.